Facebook.... And an apology.....
A little less than a year ago, like many of you, I decided to join Facebook per a family request. For our family it's been more of a place to share our schedules, pictures, and daily information. When some of my blogger friends asked to join me I was very happy to share. To me the more friends the merrier. I have always been a very open person and now that I am getting used to Facebook I found it was fun to connect and share with family and friends.
In the beginning of my Facebook experience I even asked several of my blogger friends to join me. One of them accepted and one of them didn't. I did not have a problem with the one who didn't. I just thought that maybe Facebook was getting a little too personal for them.
Several months ago a couple of my family members were looking over my friend page and asked me who some of them were. When I said they were part of my blogging family, or an old school friend, they said they felt I had over stepped they're personal boundaries. They said they had wanted to keep Facebook a more private site at least for now. As most of you know my family is reluctant to even let me post pictures here on my blog. In hind sight they were right and I should have consulted them first.
Shortly after the conversation with my family I went through my list of friends and deleted all of those who were not somehow directly connected in some way to my family. It was an extremely difficult decision for me to make. I certainly didn't want to hurt any one. I realize doing it this way was extremely rude but my plan was to contact each person individually to let them know why and what had happened.
As many of you know I have had computer problems in the past and have recently gotten a new one. With a new product comes a new learning experience. I have not figured out how to get the blocks off of my computer, and therefore, have no access at this time to anybodies e-mail address. When I try to get an address off of a blog all that comes up is a little box with an error in it and an OK button. All of the e-mails I did have were lost when my old computer crashed. I am slowly collecting them again as I receive them. I really didn't feel comfortable trying to explain this under a comment section of a blog so I decided instead to do it publicly here on my blog.
Maybe some of you have wrestled with a similiar problem. If so, I would love to hear from you.
I AM TRULY SORRY IF I HAVE OFFENDED ANYONE, FAMILY INCLUDED!
I hope all of you will understand.
I care very much for each and every one of you and I do hope I will be forgiven.
I pray that I won't lose any of my dear friends because of this.
With warmest regards, Carol
13 comments:
I understand and bet nearly everyone else will too, maybe everyone period. :)
I try not to post photos unless I've cleared it with the subjects, even if I gave birth to them. It must be very hard to be in the witness protection program now, eh? ;-)
I very recently joined Facebook in order to reconnect with an old school friend. We did connect and I'm happy about that, but other than that I find Facebook boring and just check it now and then to see if anyone new has popped up. I use my blog as a journal with pictures and I try not to use pictures or names of friends unless I get permission first. With family I make the decision.
I am probably the only person in the universe who is not on Facebook, Carol.
And I'm sure everyone will understand. Anyone who knows you knows that you are the sweetest person on earth and would never do anything to deliberately hurt someone.
XO,
Sheila :-)
Just hang in there!! It'll all come out in the wash...my mom always says that. :) All will unterstand!
Love Charlie's pic!!!! Cathy
You're a brave gal to go the Facebook route! After one particularly brutal family event discussed in Facebook, I'm not much of a fan and don't have a Facebook page and do not join to keep connected with family. (My daughter loves hers, though.) I understand completely that you're keeping it for family and may your experience there always be happy. No worries about emails. I'll send you one and you can add me to your addy book or not as you wish.
Hi Carol! I totally understand and I'm sure everyone else will too! My daughter and sisters in law insisted I join FaceBook! I did and it's been fun to connect with so many of my high school friends and other friends down through the years. But I do understand about using it as a family project. You've done the right thing and I love ya no matter what!
Hug little Charli for Chloe Dawn and me.
Be a sweetie,
Shelia ;)
You and I are so similar, Carol. I too, joined FB just for family, but friended some bloggers. Later, I deleted them as I want to keep family more private. I trust that people will understand.
I totally understand, more than you could know. It will all be okay. Time most often heals things. I think your caring spirit is a real blessing in today's world.
Facebook is such a tricky thing and I've questioned whether I should be more careful. Everyone should understand your intentions and need to keep family matters private.
Hugs to you!
Shelley & Scout
i use facebook only to keep in touch with my family, it makes life simpler to keep it that way. i convo with friends through email and or on my blog. i have conflicting thoughts about privacy on my blog too. my son felt ok about having his photo up there (cuddled up with his sisters cat), my daughter would not feel comfortable to have her picture there. i take photographs of corners of my kitchen and living room and then don't post them becuse i wonder how exposing it might feel. i think 'if in doubt do wowt' and will wait until i really feel ok about that (if that happens). it has been good to have the opportunity to talk about this, i wonderded how others felt. i am a very friendly person, but also very shy (quite a difficult combination sometimes).
i am sure that you have not offeneded anyone and that your friends will understand perfectly. your post is very thoughtful, you caring and kindness shows.
warmest wishes xxx
sumea
Well I think that's sad that you can't be "friends" with who you want to be and I'll miss you on Facebook but I understand it :) Have a lovely day Carol ♥
First, thank you so much for leaving such a nice comment about my DIY pillow box (I like the lottery ticket idea)! Second, I agree with everyone that most folks will understand the whole Facebook issue. Best of luck with how it all rolls out!
I am on FB but it is really not my thing....at all. I don't much like it...it's like walking into a room full of people and shouting all your secrets! I seldom go over to it and then I don't stay too long. Don't care for all the games, either. But, that's just me..I know others just love it and that's great...
How have you been doing? Been awhile since I've been by...Blogland is so big now, I sometimes get lost....:)
hugs, bj
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